社会根本就没有功夫和耐心慢慢培养你。你不行？你不愿意？你不喜欢？没关系，换人吧！这就是现实。
   一天到晚只会抱怨的人，必定是不成熟的人。当你知道自己应该如何去面对社会，如何快速地适应社会后，你就没有时间去抱怨了。因为那个时候，你把时间都用来学习、工作和拓展人际网络了。
20几岁的年轻人，要有责任感和使命感。
1）责任感--对自己的未来负责
年轻人要知道，一次次放松自己、迁就自己的行为，看似不起眼，慢慢地就会让你形成一种懒散敷衍的习惯，最终害了你一辈子。可以说，那些不愿意长大、阻碍自我成长的年轻人，说到底是他们不愿意承担责任。但是你要知道，有压力并不是一件坏事，正是这些压力，驱使着你一步一步前进。
2）使命感--努力达成自己的目标
比如，一个有使命感的人，当他意识到自己的能力不够的时候，他会很自觉地去向别人学习请教，不断充电；当他意识到自己的圈子太窄时，他会有意识地扩大自己的交友圈子，不断增加自己的人脉资。

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在我们每天接触的人中，哪些对我们是真心的，哪些是虚伪的，我们很容易就能够感觉到。对于那些真诚的人，即使我们开始不怎么喜欢他们，最后他们的真诚也会打动我们，所谓"精诚所至，金石为开"；而对那些虚伪的人，开始我们会喜欢他们的笑容，甚至有种亲切感，但是时间久了，我们就会对他们的"笑里藏刀"、"口蜜腹剑"感到厌烦、憎恶，最终不自觉地远离他们。所以，每个人都喜欢对自己真诚的人。

    巴尔扎克说过："只有打算彼此开诚布公的人们，相互之间才能建立起心灵上的交流。"朋友要做到交心，没有什么比真诚更重要。

当然，这里所说的包装自己，决不意味着可以弄虚作假，所以一个人不仅仅要注重穿着得体、有品位、吸引人，更要注重自己内在的气质修养。这也就是我所说的内在包装，比如自己的诚实可靠，自己的渊博知识，或是自己的稳重大方，这些都应让别人从你的一举一动中切实地感受到。当然，这需要你不断地充实自己，做个富有内涵的人。